First, you need to Upload the Flash .swf File to a Location your Server.
In this Example we Suppose than the File has been Uploaded in the media Directory.
Next Login to the Administrator Back end.
For TinyMCE Extended:

Extensions > Plugin Manager.

Select TinyMCE.

Functionality -> Extended.

Toggle Editor.

Click on the Media Symbol.

Select Flash from dropdown.
Fill in the .swf Path.